Thursday, December 31, 2009
Happy 2010!
Mike and I are wishing you wonderful and safe happy new year! It's going to be a big year for us and we couldn't be happier. See you all soon!
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
The results are in!
A couple of weeks ago we met with Mr. Dick Phillips (our contact at the church who reviews the results of the Marriage Prepare test) and learned quite a few things about each other. More than we thought we would just by taking this test. I'll be the first to admit that I wasn't keen on the idea of taking some test to determine our strenghts and weakness. Partly because I'm stubborn and the other being that a member of my own family had reviewed results with other couples at one time and I remember thinking, "How awful that you have to tell a couple that they shouldn't get married or that they will have a tough time with their relationship if they do decide to get married". As usual, my perception (and fears) were skewed and I'm happy to say that I'm extremely glad we did this. I *highly* encourage couples to take this test before they are married.
Both Mike and I learned that we rank very high overall on having a healthy relationship (among the other 2,000 couples that have been married for XX amount of years). Both of us also scored high on good communication within our relationship and with each other (yes, those are two different things). Both of us are very independent (can be good or bad) and we both have a very low tendency on avoiding topics, discussions, problems, etc. One of us (I won't name names - OK FINE, me)is very stubborn. The other (Mike) is also stubborn but not nearly as much as I am. Something we both already knew, I just didn't realize how much more stubborn I was than Mike. I'm also very unlikely to lean on someone else for help. This makes complete since to me because that's how I was raised but, it didn't really hit home until I read how we answered on certain questions. That's a definitely a weakness that can be worked on.
We both didn't realize that although we've talked about children, we'd never REALLY talked about what our roles as parents would be. How were we going to handle discipline? Would one of us be overprotective and the other one not so much? How would we handle? What were the roles and responsibilities of being parents?
We came home with some homework but not dreadful homework by any means. We also learned it's not the quantity of time you spend with each other that makes you stronger as a couple, it's the quality and the communication. Great lessons learned:).
Both Mike and I learned that we rank very high overall on having a healthy relationship (among the other 2,000 couples that have been married for XX amount of years). Both of us also scored high on good communication within our relationship and with each other (yes, those are two different things). Both of us are very independent (can be good or bad) and we both have a very low tendency on avoiding topics, discussions, problems, etc. One of us (I won't name names - OK FINE, me)is very stubborn. The other (Mike) is also stubborn but not nearly as much as I am. Something we both already knew, I just didn't realize how much more stubborn I was than Mike. I'm also very unlikely to lean on someone else for help. This makes complete since to me because that's how I was raised but, it didn't really hit home until I read how we answered on certain questions. That's a definitely a weakness that can be worked on.
We both didn't realize that although we've talked about children, we'd never REALLY talked about what our roles as parents would be. How were we going to handle discipline? Would one of us be overprotective and the other one not so much? How would we handle? What were the roles and responsibilities of being parents?
We came home with some homework but not dreadful homework by any means. We also learned it's not the quantity of time you spend with each other that makes you stronger as a couple, it's the quality and the communication. Great lessons learned:).
Sunday, December 6, 2009
It's planning time again!
Yes, it's been awhile since we've posted about our planning process! Here is where we are thus far... (We also promise to start posting more often :-)).
I know we've been saying this a lot, but we OFFICIALLY, officially got our church. After a 3 month process, it's ours on our date. The stress and process was well worth it, but at the same time, I can see why some couples opt for another location after they learn St. Mary's guidelines. We can't wait to be married in the cathedral.
After interviewing many photographers (and realizing how different each style (and price) is), we've chosen our person. She meets both our style and our budget! Next up, booking her and our engagement/bridal portrait sessions (don't get too excited about seeing those photos just yet, we won't have these taken until my braces are off in June!).
Our guest list is just about complete and we're currently finalizing the addresses. We'll start looking at "Save the Date" cards and invitations in the next couple of weeks!
Mike has been tasked with finding a DJ that not only meets our music taste, but is fun as well. After all, the DJ is the MC of the reception! Our current candidate describes his voice as "Smooth like butter". More on that from Mike later on :-).
And finally, reception site. We've looked at a few venues and the only place that has met a lot of our expectations (pie-in-the-sky and down-to-earth) is the Stephen F Austin Hotel at 7th and Congress. This location represents lots of milestones within our relationship and we think it's absolutely perfect for our reception and guests. It's not exactly in our budget, but with any wedding reception venue manager, they want to work with us and "make our dream come true". This is where my Mexico haggling skills come into play. He gave us an offer and we countered back. Let's hope it's a little more realistic!!
Hopefully this post will satisfy your curiosity about our plans for now! We have an appointment to review our marriage prep results on Thursday so stay tuned for an exciting post on that experience..as with anything with Mike and I, there is always a fun story :).
I know we've been saying this a lot, but we OFFICIALLY, officially got our church. After a 3 month process, it's ours on our date. The stress and process was well worth it, but at the same time, I can see why some couples opt for another location after they learn St. Mary's guidelines. We can't wait to be married in the cathedral.
After interviewing many photographers (and realizing how different each style (and price) is), we've chosen our person. She meets both our style and our budget! Next up, booking her and our engagement/bridal portrait sessions (don't get too excited about seeing those photos just yet, we won't have these taken until my braces are off in June!).
Our guest list is just about complete and we're currently finalizing the addresses. We'll start looking at "Save the Date" cards and invitations in the next couple of weeks!
Mike has been tasked with finding a DJ that not only meets our music taste, but is fun as well. After all, the DJ is the MC of the reception! Our current candidate describes his voice as "Smooth like butter". More on that from Mike later on :-).
And finally, reception site. We've looked at a few venues and the only place that has met a lot of our expectations (pie-in-the-sky and down-to-earth) is the Stephen F Austin Hotel at 7th and Congress. This location represents lots of milestones within our relationship and we think it's absolutely perfect for our reception and guests. It's not exactly in our budget, but with any wedding reception venue manager, they want to work with us and "make our dream come true". This is where my Mexico haggling skills come into play. He gave us an offer and we countered back. Let's hope it's a little more realistic!!
Hopefully this post will satisfy your curiosity about our plans for now! We have an appointment to review our marriage prep results on Thursday so stay tuned for an exciting post on that experience..as with anything with Mike and I, there is always a fun story :).
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